Black Friday?

Hey there everyone! This is a long one but please stick with me if you can.

Post-Thanksgiving. We really are looking at the end of the Gregorian calendar year 2020. It’s moving right along. And some of us might find today to be a bit of a struggle. Maybe you feel guilty about the food you ate yesterday. Maybe the stress of the holiday season is bearing down upon you and you feel guilt because this year won’t be like others and that’s out of your control. Maybe there is a feeling of overwhelm because you don’t know what to do or what to focus on next.

Maybe it’s all of the above.

I know that as recently as two years ago I would have seen everything I ate yesterday as another exercise I would need to perform to “earn” that next bite. The punishment of enjoyment. And I have worked really hard to focus on kinder, healthier thought patterns and self care.

It’s an uphill battle, but I keep on fighting.

Because I want feeding my body to be, in some ways, a sacred experience. That’s not to say that food has morality – this is outside of the realms and confines of christian ‘good’ and ‘bad.’ I want moving my body to be for enjoyment, pleasure, love, care, healing – not a horrifying experience to work off my supposed sins. And that is why today I went on a long walk – an easy going activity I could maintain for a longer period of time with fresh air, music, and a sense of joy.

I’ll need to keep working towards that as I go along.

I had a lot of information that I wanted to post here about Takesgiving (what it really ought to be called) but I think I will post a link to someone who wrote it first and much better. Let’s just say that there are things we all need to change moving forward – and now may be the time. (While we’re on this journey towards wellness – how we see the world and others is key to living well)


Now , we can’t talk about spiritual wellness in America (or rather the western world on the whole in a lot of ways) without coming back, once again, to capitalism. Today is a day where many will flock out to the big top stores and major online retailers searching for the best deal on products that they may or may not need. And look, I get it. We’re conditioned by the system we live in and it takes a lot of energy and time to really break out of that cycle. And sometimes we really want something that can only be found there, I suppose.

Seriously though. This year, consider supporting friends, family, loved ones, and friends of friends who are creating with whatever they have. Engage with their work (honestly, online engagement is huge and can mean so much more to a new or smaller artist than it ever will to larger production companies who you can and should continue to support – but really, support your friends and loved ones the same way.) Support a local business or store that may really need you more than ever, especially if you still want to see any of them in your town or metro area in the coming months.

*If you make or create, comment below this post and we can work together to help get the word out!

**SHARE THE WORK OF OTHERS! Do you like something someone in your circle did? Chances are others will too! Spread the word. ❤

***If you want to support me, you can stream my album on Spotify! It’s an essentially free way to help give my work traction and I do gain from the listen. Plus, on a non monetary note – it is a way to show support in a very real and meaningful way that means so much to me as an artist.

****But if you can afford it and you want to – you can check out my Bandcamp here and purchase my new album directly! You don’t even have to go through iTunes (unless that’s your jam, I guess 🙂 )

Be well. When we all know better, we can all do better.

❤ Kay Jay

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